Are you ready to love yourself?
Journey of Self Love is a somatic mentorship for gay, bi, and queer men
who are done pining, seeking, searching for love outside themselves.
If you’re ready to receive full-spectrum love, welcome. You’re in the right place.
“The minute I heard my first love story, I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was.
Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along.”
This Journey is for you if…
You're a queer man who, by most measures, has his life together—and yet something underneath still doesn't feel right.
Maybe you're high-functioning but exhausted by the effort of holding it all together.
Maybe you keep finding yourself in relationships where you give more than you receive.
Maybe you've been to therapy, read the books, done the work — and you still hear that inner voice that says you're not quite enough.
Know the love you're looking for isn't ‘out there’. Know there is nothing lacking from your life.
You don’t need a new hobby to distract you.
You don’t need to seek validation, fulfillment, or love outside yourself.
You don’t need to revamp your life with a new job or romantic pursuit.
You simply need to reclaim the parts of yourself that have been cut off, stuffed down, or disconnected, from the love that is your birthright.
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it… and embrace them.”
—Rumi
The Barriers to Love
Do you never quite feel enough — in your relationships, your career, your own skin?
Is your capacity to love suffering from low self-worth and a harsh inner critic that won't quiet down?
Are you caught in patterns of self-sabotage, people-pleasing, or self-abandonment — giving and giving, and losing yourself in the process?
At the root of all of it is a lack of Self Love.
Self Love is the foundation of healthy relationships, authentic connection, and a life that actually feels like yours — yet most of us were never taught how to love ourselves.
Love is a biological and psychological need — as fundamental as food or shelter.
So we move through the world seeking it outside of ourselves — conforming to others' desires and expectations, shrinking to be accepted, performing to be chosen. It's a one-way ticket to losing ourselves, sacrificing authenticity, and ending up in loneliness and heartache.
You want to feel at home in your body and in the world.
In this journey, I guide you back to that belonging — in a clear, embodied process.
There is another way.
Journey of Self Love is a somatic coaching immersion — a 5-week container where we work on both the level of the body (soma) and the stories you carry. We don't just talk about change. We feel it shift.
Through this work, you will:
Come home to your body — release the tension, anxiety, and disconnection stored beneath the surface
Quiet the inner critic — shift from harsh self-judgment to genuine self-compassion
Halt people-pleasing, and other self abdicating impulses
Know your worth — stop settling for less in love, work, and life
Love and be loved fully — give and receive without losing yourself in the process
Choose yourself — move through the world with grounded presence and belonging
How It Works
1. Map It
We locate all those “barriers within,” the places self-love is blocked — in the body, in the patterns, in the stories you’ve been living. We get honest about what's actually running the show beneath the surface.
2. Rewire It
Through Somatic Breathwork, guided inquiry, mindfulness, journalwork, role-playing relational dynamics, and real-world reps, you’ll retrain your nervous system and rewrite your personal myth, from self-criticism to self compassion, and ultimately, Self Love.
3. Live It
We anchor the work into the body through daily ritual practice, and a felt sense of what it actually means to choose yourself — every day.
I know this territory.
As a queer man, I spent years searching for love in all the wrong places — in relationships, in ‘the scene’ & dating apps, in achievement, in striving up the corporate ladder, in the approval of others.
The journey back to myself, my innate enough-ness, changed everything.
Now, as a somatic coach and transformational facilitator, I guide queer men into that same return — back to the love that was always within them, waiting to be reclaimed.
My approach draws from neurobiology, depth psychology, somatic therapy, mindfulness, and the wisdom traditions I've apprenticed to across the US, Peru, Costa Rica, and Hawaii.
Training & background:
Certified in Somatic Breathwork (Soma+IQ™) and Yoga Instructor (RYT200)
Psychospiritual Hypnotherapy practitioner
Psychedelic facilitation training through MAPS & Johns Hopkins
Nearly a decade of guiding 1:1 immersions and group work in nature-based and ceremonial settings
This work isn’t about fixing what’s “broken.”
It’s about reclaiming all the parts of yourself that have been wounded, neglected, or forgotten, picking up those pieces and seeing their beauty, through all the struggle and pain they may have caused, to bring you back into wholeness, and re-write the controlling narrative of your life, from a place of empowerment.
As your guide, I vow to meet you where you’re at, and tailor the elements and practices to your unique challenges.
~Jonathan
“My biggest "a ha!" moment was discovering how much I've abandoned myself by trying to please others constantly... even after years of self work. Through this mentorship, I've realized I can make small changes to start seeing the effects of self-love in the way I show up for myself and how I show up for others. The work resonated with me in a way I could understand and implement through daily action to build momentum in my journey.”
~Elias, 46, New York
What We Do Together
The recommended pacing is to complete all sessions in 5 weeks, as your schedule allows.
Opening + Orientation (:75) // We map where you are, clarify what you're moving toward, and establish the container
Cultivating Wholeness (:75) //the Four Facets of Love, and the Inner Protectors
Somatic Breathwork Ceremony (:90) // Learn more about breathwork here
Self Worth Workshop (:75) // Core Values Work, Life-Serving Boundaries
Integration & Embodiment (:75)
Plus:
Messaging support and check-ins between sessions
Guided meditations, breathing, and practices for nervous system regulation and cultivating Self-Compassion and Self Love
Educational resources, “homework” assignments, and interactive journalwork between sessions
The Inner Work
✦ Five sessions over 5 weeks, tailored to where you are in your journey
✦ Each session weaves somatic coaching, breathwork, psychospiritual inquiry, and nervous system practices — guided by your unique soul design
✦ Weekday text check-ins via Telegram — something on your heart between sessions? I'm here.
$1500
The Deep Work
Everything in the Inner Work — plus a personalized soul blueprint session, vision work, and a lasting map of your transformation.
✦ Everything included in The Core Work, plus:
✦ Soul Blueprint Session (:90) — How to use Human Design, Gene Keys and/or Astrology as a map for your journey, and keys to unlock your particular way of loving the world, others, and your Self
✦ Visionary Soul Session (:90) — Values-anchored vision — hopes, dreams & orienting your heart to the path ahead
✦ Soul Map — a personalized reflection handwritten by Jonathan—your journey, your gifts, your vision—delivered at the close of the program.
✦ Weekly voice message check-ins between sessions. Something on your heart? Receive real-time support. (via Telegram app, available weekdays)
$2000
Not sure which is right for you? We can decide together on the Discovery Call.
Self Love is your birthright.
But too often we block ourselves from it — out of fear, childhood wounds, toxic relationships, and the slow accumulation of messages that told us we were too much, not enough, or fundamentally wrong.
This residue lives not only in our mind, but in the body too.
the journey of self love works on the level of the body and the mind — to dissolve these old stories, and re-wire stuck patterns, transforming you into a man who knows his worth, chooses himself, and chooses LOVE.
What clients are saying
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"I had never received coaching before, so there were many unknowns. I just knew I wanted to feel good in my body and in my life… I don't mean to sound extreme, but it changed my life. I learned what I value, how to balance structure with spontaneity, and how to love myself. I found out that loving myself is both an ambient state of being, and a collection of actions, and Jonathan helped guide me to a place of self-compassion and resilience that has permeated throughout all my experiences and relationships."
~Alex C, 33 • Dallas, TX
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"I found myself in a stagnant place. I was feeling depressed, unmotivated, tired, and confused. It is hard to seek out help. It can make you feel vulnerable and weak, but Jonathan made me feel strong for taking that step. Because of that, I felt immediately comfortable with him, making it very easy to share my thoughts and feelings. He asked questions until he completely understood what I was going through… I felt he really cared about me and what I was going through. In working with Jonathan I was able to define specific and productive actions to implement traction. I started feeling energized and successful. More energy. More focus. More happiness.
Rick A • Brighton, CO
Insta: @rickarrick
Frequently Asked Questions
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Journey of Self Love is not psychotherapy and Jonathan is not a licensed therapist. This is somatic coaching and transformational facilitation — we work with the body, the nervous system, and the stories you carry. Many clients do both therapy and this work simultaneously and find the two approaches complement each other beautifully. Several of Jonathan's clients are therapists themselves.
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Journey of Self Love is a shorter, more focused immersion — ideal if you're building a foundation of self-love and self-worth, or earlier in your inner work. The Crucible goes deeper into shame alchemy and mythosomatic work over a longer arc. Many men begin here and move into The Crucible when they're ready.
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Good — that means you're ready for this. Many clients come with years of therapy, meditation, or personal development behind them and find this work reaches places other modalities couldn't access. Prior work isn't a barrier, it's a foundation.
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Absolutely. You don't need to be out to anyone else — only willing to be honest with yourself. Many men come to this work precisely because they're navigating the tension between their inner truth and their outer life.
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Sessions vary depending on where you are in the program. Some are inquiry-based conversations, others involve somatic breathwork, guided visualization, or deep journalwork. Each session is tailored to you — there's no rigid script, only a map and a skilled guide.
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Five weeks, with sessions ranging from 60–90 minutes. Between sessions, you'll have light practices, “homework,” journalwork, and text or voice message support to keep the momentum alive.
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These systems are used as personalization lenses, not formal readings. Before our first session, you'll share your birth data and I'll weave the relevant threads — your Human Design type, Gene Keys gifts and shadows, key natal placements — throughout our work together. It's a map for understanding how you specifically are wired for love, where your gifts live, and what self-love looks like for your unique soul design.
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Access matters deeply to me. Payment plans are always available, and a small number of adjusted-rate spots are offered each year. If finances are the only thing standing between you and this work, reach out — there may be a way to make it work.
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